Dear Kala,
More than the incident my MILs reply to my husband ,(will she be sociable only with men and not with women)made me laugh.
Thanks for the comment.
mythili

Mythili
Thangam would have spoken to your inlaws also if they had greeted and called her inside openly instead of smiling and thinking that it was an invitation enough?
Good one Mythili.
A small incident makes you write an article.

Dear Mr.YashChhabra,
Thanks for the comment.Elders do have their point which is mostly right.A boy came to see one of our relative's daughter.Both the sides were happy.The boy wanted to talk to the girl alone.The parents said yes.He had asked her to come out with him that evening for a film or some such thing.The girl having been brt up in conservative atmosphere fortunately said politely,that she could not come out with him before marriage.
After a couple of months when most of the arrangements for the marriage were done by the girl's parenta,they got a telegram from the boy,'Pl stop the marriage.I agreed to marry your daughter because of parental pressure,i am in love with my colleague".If our girl had gone out with him and if one thing led to another and the girl would have believed that that boy was going to be her lifecompanion,imagine what  a mental wreck she would have been?Luckily when this happened,nodoubt everyody was shocked but the girl laughed it off.
mythili

Mr.Sampath,
Thank you for the comment.
She can not but be appreciated.Inspite of sacrifing so much for her family and having brought up ten children(eventhough my FIL was a govt servant)my mil was the person who face dthe day to day issues,she has kept her sense of humour and her zest for life alive.She watches the budget discussion on TV keeps asking us whether her pension will go up,she has to read the newspaper,and on top of everything she is saving money for her granddaughter my BILs daughter who excels in studies,so that she can use that money for her further edu if required.I have great admiration for her.
mythili

Dear friend,
Thank you for the comment.
mythili

Yes Mythili 
mebbe she was waiting for a Invite from your womenfolk .... its one thing to smile another to invite na :)

I am positive if she was sociable she must have been waiting for that invite, not everyone can barge in on someones privacy.
I think  she must be thinking to this day that your husband 's family did not invite her to join the ladies .. :):)  yes am certain of it.   

i am so happy
that you appreciate your MIL..
the issue is about keen observation..
and her point is very valid....

Lovely write..I feel your MIl should have frankly told her to come inside for a while if   she was interested in interacting with them....I remember,once I accompanied  my friend  to see a girl. We went to her house. He liked the girl and as usual wished to  talk to the girl..so both were escorted to another room...I was amuzed to see that girls mother was listening to every word of them while hiding behind the curtain....So elders have their own mind  coz of the  way they lead their life...yash

Dear sunkan,

why should any one be scared of orthodox people.I think we should fiirst of all know what is orthodoxy,then only we can comment on orthodox people.

Any how as I wrote to Mr.Subbu,we have to know how to conduct ourselves at different levels.We can not always be doing or enjoying things that we like,sometimes we have to go a little out of the way to make others happy.

If Thangam had taken the lead in mingling with the ladies at home she would have had the surprise of meeting my mil who was and is a cheerful person and my sild,highly qualified at the same time exeptional home makers.I on my part am very proud of them and do not consider even for a minute that they have to change in any way.

Thank you sunkan,we have to discuss this relevant topic at leisure,I hacve spo much to tell you.

mythili

Thank you for the comment.
mythili